Getting this ‘new’ language right will be crucial to our physical and mental well-being
I just got off my first Staples Community Zoom call and it far exceeded my expectations – as have all the ‘get-togethers’ I’ve been invited to over the past week or so. Today’s call in particular, though, was refreshing and even motivated me to write this post. My motivation being taking the opportunity to share invaluable insight that was shared with me… paying it forward, I guess.
I’m not even sure what my initial expectations were in each ‘social’ case, but I know I felt trepidation due to the awkwardness I would likely feel in attempting to replace a physical social occasion with a virtual one. Whether it was a Facetime call with our friends a few blocks away, or a professional community Zoom call with several people I didn’t know, there was a consistent initial dread of it being ‘weird’. Awkward even. Should we dress up (by that I mean get of our now-standard ‘loungewear’)? Can I enjoy a beer while on-screen? Where should we sit? Even so, I knew it was something I needed and wanted to try, so I could stay positive knowing I’m doing whatever I can to cope with self-imposed isolation.
And you know what? They were all great experiences, no two the same. No awkwardness whatsoever and in every case I came out of the experience energized, positive, appreciative of the people around me, and just plain optimistic about how we will all come out of this (whenever that is) better humans.
Only on today’s call with my Staples Community peers did I truly reflect on my recent and new social experiences via ‘technology’. We were talking about how we are each coping with the current COVID-19 sitch, as remote workers who utilize local Staples Studios as both a physical and virtual shared work space, now that we were pretty much confined to our respective homes. I must say, the level of introspection and self-awareness I was observing was refreshing. Good or bad (or neither as I prefer) every person on the ‘call’ had something personal to share that benefitted the others.
The nugget I found most fascinating was when Muriel one of the community management team at Staples made reference to what I’ll call a misnomer. this misnomer being paramount to what we are all experiencing right now: Social Distancing. See, we are being asked to SOCIALLY distance ourselves, when in fact what we are being asked is to distance ourselves PHYSICALLY. Wow what tremendous insight. Thank you Muriel!
To take this insight further, my feeling is because we’ve been mandated to distance ourselves socially, we’ve likely unconsciously over-isolated ourselves. Isolation in the true sense of disconnecting ourselves from others, unless chosen, can lead to things we are not prepared for. By that I mean mentally and emotionally, not physically.
So, as much as I accept and appreciate all the measures put in place to get Canada through this – Yay Canada! – I think it’s important to start focusing on preventative self-care in other ways than avoiding COVID-19. Ways that stimulate your ‘self’ – physical, mental, and emotional – in positive ways. My hope for today’s post is mainly to share perspective/insight that I see as brilliant in its simplicity, and so relevant to RIGHT NOW. First step, change the language if the language ain’t workin’.
Physical distancing is in full force, and is absolutely what we need to keep doing.
Social distancing is something we need to seriously question and challenge if we want to stay healthy, in all aspects, and begin to shift our behaviour (again) back to being more like the social creatures we humans are designed to be.
So although you need to stay home, and physically avoid others, get (virtually) out there people, and start socializing again!
Thanks for connecting! Now go wash your hands and don’t touch anything.
5 thoughts on “Social Distancing: Right Intention, Wrong Wording”
Great post. Nice to see your blog again.Hoping you are staying safe!
Thanks Pam! Nice to be back. We are keeping well. Hope you are too
…another Pam here… pamster 😀 I loved this SPW! I have never used zoom before last week and have now had 3 virtual happy hours with friends and neighbours – it was much better than expected.
On the topic of Zoom – I noticed in the representative photo in your blog, that the people in it are all well lit, at eye level to the “camera” and the shot has a beautiful soft background (short depth of field). ok, this pretty much never happens in any video chatting… mostly, we look like we’re in a witness protection video.
We need to get it together and up our zoom game.
In the past I have done several “on-line” interviews – usually using skype. I give this check list to subjects I will be calling and recording: 1. Determine the main light source in the room (window, lamp…) – position the computer so the light hits your face. 2. If there is overhead lighting that is making your eyes look like dark holes – shut it off. 3. What is behind you? Is it something you would like to showcase? Is it distracting… incriminating? 4. Elevate your computer/tablet/phone so that it is at eye level and the screen is perpendicular to your face – no one looks good from a low angle – just no one.
Thanks Pamstur! Glad you like, and so glad you shared your expert tips! Perhaps you can help me as I prepare to do my first Webinar next week!
I’ll text you.